Pregnant woman ‘given dirty looks’ and called ‘lazy’ for refusing to give up seat on bus

A pregnant woman has been left wondering if she did the right thing after refusing to give up her seat on the bus for an older woman who branded her ‘lazy’ as a result

Using public transport these days can make some of us feel rather uncomfortable, following on from the pandemic, as you end up in pretty close quarters with other people.

One woman claims she was recently taking the bus home when she found herself in an awkward situation with an older woman who wanted to sit by herself as she didn’t feel safe.

In a post on Reddit, the younger woman, who had just finished an eight hour day at work is currently 18 weeks pregnant, says she sat downstairs on the bus, as she had lots of heavy shopping bags and was nervous about falling on the stairs.

She purposefully says she avoided sitting in the priority seats but instead was sat behind them when she was asked to move by a more senior lady with a walking stick.

And the situation resulted in some drama on the bus.

Her post on the Am I The A**hole forum read: “AITA for not giving up my seat on the bus?

“So I (26F) got on the bus after an eight hour day in work. Now I get on at very first stop on the bus route and get off at the very last stop the whole journey takes about two hours.

“When I got on the bus it was quite busy on the bottom deck, with only one double seat left available. Usually, I would go upstairs when it’s this busy but this time I had about 4-5 slightly heavy bags with me and didn’t feel safe trying to get up the stairs with them especially since I’m 18 weeks pregnant, so I sat on the seat downstairs.

“About halfway through the journey, an older lady with a stick got on the bus and she asked me to move. She wasn’t even polite when she asked and honestly I thought she meant move over so she could sit next to me. So I moved my bags and started to scoot over, when she ‘No, No I meant can you find another seat, this seat is reserved for disabled people. You are clearly not disabled. There are plenty of seats upstairs’.

“These seats were not priority seats for disabled people the ones in front of me were (which had an empty seat) but these ones were not. so I replied, ‘Sorry, I really don’t feel safe going up the stairs with all these bags, I don’t mind you sitting next to me though, we both have our masks on’.”

She claims the other woman told her she didn’t want to sit next to anyone else as she didn’t feel safe.

She then instructed the younger woman to “move your lazy fat behind and give the seat to someone who needs it”.

The 26-year-old added: “I hate confrontation and I absolutely hate people who use their pregnancy as an excuse, which means I hate what I said next.

“Lady I am pregnant, I am not going up those stairs with these bags and risking a fall. If you really want a seat to yourself ask someone else to move.”

A man sitting across from them then offered up his seat and went upstairs, but not before giving the pregnant woman a “dirty look”.

She added: “The lady spent the next 10-15 minutes talking with the other oldies on the bus about how the kids these days have no respect for their elders or people with disabilities, or how they would have never have spoken to someone like in their day.

“This happened a couple of days ago, while my boyfriend and my dad said I was in the right, but I can’t help but feel like I acted like an entitled brat.”

More than 500 people have since responded to the woman’s post, with many agreeing that she was not in the wrong for standing her ground.

One person said: “NTA. You should’ve pointed out where the disabled seats were. Also, f**k older people who think their age entitles them to respect…they’re usually the ones lacking manners.”

Another wrote: “All seats on the bus were double seats so she would have had to have sit next to someone, which she said she didn’t want to do. So basically she wanted a double seat to herself.”

A third commented: “You are 18 weeks pregnant and you were making the right decision to keep you and baby safe.”